Wednesday, September 16, 2015

Online friendships: Are they real?


Lenhart, A., Smith, A., Anderson, M., Duggan, M., Perrin, A., “Teens, Technology and 
      Friendships.”  Pew Research Center, August, 2015. 

 

Online friendships: Are they real?

            The debate continues on whether or not online friendships are true or just a casualty of Internet trolling.  Add to this the wave of teenage years and adolescence at its best.  Are teens creating lasting friendships formed through social media?  The majority of social interaction is often seen in social media sites such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and various other sites that are popping up daily.  Teens are using these sites to form friendships that may or may be genuine.

            As a mother, this poses an interesting situation.  Although my daughter is not quite a teenager, she is exposed to online player who are significantly older than her asking for friendship requests in order to play online together.  I am aware of these and put in place my parental controls, but it makes me wonder if other parents do the same.  Can we truly expect these online friendships to be genuine and do teens view them as such?

            Data addressing these very questions was collected for the Pew Research Center.  1,060 teens, ages 13 to 17, were surveyed from September 25 to October 9 and February 10 to March 16, 2015.  The data collected attempted to address how teens are forming online friendships and in what capacity.

            As we well know, it’s crucial for teens to form friendships and maintain those friendships in a healthy manner.  Social media has made it incredibly easy to connect with people 5 miles to 5,000 miles away.  The data collected reflected 57% of teens met a new friend online (p. 15).  The majority of these friendships were formed through social media or online gameplay (p. 17). 

            Even more of a concern to me is that 20% of all teens have met an online friend in person (p. 21).  That is definitely a scary thought.  I would hope that the data collected is accurate and that teens surveyed were truthful in giving the information.  I don’t know how I would feel if those numbers were bigger.

            The data also concluded that boys are more likely than girls to make online friends (p. 19).  This could be attributed to the online gaming community.  The research shows that online gaming builds stronger connections between friends (p. 48). 

            In contrast to teenage boys’ online activities, girls are also more likely to unfriend, unfollow, and block former friends (p. 68).  Teens come in many forms, but most would agree that friendship is perhaps a top priority.  83% of teen social media use makes them feel more connected to their friends’ lives (p. 54).  Some of these connections include causing or creating drama to receiving support when support is needed (p. 56).  Some teens have felt pressure to post only flattering content (p. 60).  This is just another form of conformity and pressure to look a certain way.  This may or may not lead to self-esteem issues which could become a bigger problem later on.

            The numbers are staggering, to say the least.  55% of teens spend time every day text messaging, 79% use instant messaging, 72% spend time with friends via social media, 64% use email, 59% use video chat, 52% via online video gaming, 42% use messaging apps such as Kik and WhatsApp (p. 3). 

            The most disturbing trend for me is the friendship that finds its way out of the online community.  Teens between ages 15 to 17 make about 60% of teens meeting friends in someone’s home, school, or online platforms (p. 31).  The first thing exchanged is a phone number (p. 22).

            It has become increasingly easy to join social media sites with little or no age requirements.  For this reason, parents need to be aware that it’s happening with ease and on a daily basis.  Teenagers have loads of pressure already from what I can remember.  Do they really need to use technology to achieve lasting friendships?  I sure hope not, but you never know.

 

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5 comments:

  1. I really enjoyed your blog post Melissa. I agree with you when you said that it is very alarming that so many teens are actually meeting in person the friends they make online. To me that isn't very safe because I feel that anyone can trick kids on the internet about their age.I understand that kids today are growing up with the internet, but I think that they should be spending more time hanging out with their friends instead of being online. There are so many fun and safe activities that teens can be participating in together. In my opinion online friendships are not friendships that will create lifelong friends.

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    1. Thank you, Dulce. I agree with you 100%. That was an alarming number of teens meeting people after they established online friendships. What caught my eye was that we don't know for sure that the numbers are accurate. Can you imagine if they're higher than that and they didn't answer because they were afraid to tell the truth? Scary thought.

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  2. The infographic was was nice and well-done. What did you think of the program you used to make it? Why did you choose that one over the other?

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    1. I decided to use Piktochart because I've used it once before and still don't feel confident enough to say that I'm an expert at it. I like to know what I'm getting myself into when using a program like this. I browsed Easel.ly and Infogr.am and would like to know more about them before using them.

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  3. Your article was very interesting, especially since I just gave my oldest child a cellphone. We have had to have some serious and open discussions.

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